Aya and Andi

Dear Birth Parent:

We feel honored that you are looking at our letter, and we hope that you get a sense of who we are. We have been married for almost 8 years, and we co-parent Andi’s 16-year-old son, who goes by his nickname Red. We knew from the beginning of our marriage that we eventually wanted to have more children.

We are open to adopting a child of any race and ethnicity. Whatever our child’s background is, we will be intentional in raising our child in a diverse community of friends, a school district with classmates and teachers of many different backgrounds, and we will ensure that our child has adults around that share in understanding of heritage and cultural needs.

Aya is a nurse and just finished graduate school to be a midwife. She has worked as a social worker, community organizer, doula, and nurse over the past 15 years.   She has a lot of experience in caring for newborns as a nurse and doula. Andi is a licensed counselor and community mental health advocate, and has had an independent therapy practice for five years. Red is very excited about the possibility of becoming a big brother, and he enjoys baby-sitting and hanging out with the younger children of our friends. He attends a creative arts high school, and he takes classes focused on singing and theater. Red has a lot of teachers and friends through his interest in the arts, and is going to arts and social justice oriented camps in North Carolina and California this summer. Aya loves to cook, garden, do arts and crafts projects, and help with planning events and parties for family, friends and community. Aya speaks Spanish, and we plan to raise our children to speak some Spanish at home. Andi has run in the Great Race, local 5Ks and the half-marathon in Pittsburgh, and she loves to hike, camp, go to Pirates games, and practice photography.

We have a diverse community of friends, family, and chosen family who are supportive of our plan for growing our family. We live in the East End area, a few blocks from Frick Park. There are lots of trees along our street, and we have raspberry, strawberry and blueberry bushes in our yard, as well as some flowers and a small herb garden. We have friendly neighbors on our street, and there are a lot of close friends who live within a few blocks of us.   We love to spend time together in nature, travelling, reading, and going to music and arts events. We take yearly summer vacations with our dear friends, a couple who have two young children. We are members of Phipps Botanical Garden and the Carnegie Museums, some of our favorite places in Pittsburgh, and every summer we get a family membership to the Pittsburgh Public Pools. We live right by Frick Park and spend time each week on the trails with our friends.

Our plan for the first 3 months after the adoption are for at least one of us to be home with the baby every day. We hope for both of us to be home for most of the first month after the adoption. Andi may work one or two days per week during the first month and then gradually add on work days. Even after we return to work, we plan to adapt our schedules so that one or both of us is home 3-4 days each week. We plan to hire an in-home nanny for the other 3-4 days of the week.

It is very important to us to support a connection between you and the baby if this is something that you want. We want to hear about what is important to you in planning for contact and visits. We would welcome the opportunity to meet you as you make this incredibly important decision, and we would be happy to bring a photo album for you to learn more about us.

Again, thank you for taking the time to read our letter. Part of what we like about open adoption is that we would be chosen by a birth parent who saw something in us that was a good fit. We are putting this out there to find the birth parent who sees something in us that clicks. While we are waiting, we will continue to build our marriage, home, and community as a warm nest for the baby who is meant to join our family. Thank you again for taking the time to read our letter. Warmest wishes for you to have all that you need throughout this process.

Andi & Aya

Direct email: andi.aya.family@gmail.com