Questions to Ask When Considering Adoption for Your Baby

Considering adoption for your baby? If so, you will most likely have questions; from the adoption process, to the type of relationship you will have with your child and the adoptive family after placement.

Contacting an adoption agency is often the best way to ask questions and get the information you need. However, it can be confusing and at times overwhelming on what questions birthparents should ask an adoption professional. Here are some starter questions to ask potential adoption professionals when considering adoption and to help you make important decisions about your adoption plan:

  • What adoption services do you offer? 

    It’s important to select an adoption agency that offers full services or else you may be responsible for finding additional professionals. Be sure to ask for a full list of the services each adoption professional will provide, and carefully consider the type of support and resources you will need throughout the entire process. For example, you may want to find out if the agency offers counseling for the birthparents before and after placement of the baby, and whether or not the agency has a support group available.

  • How is support available to you? 

    Ask potential adoption professionals how support is available to you. Can a birthparent counselor come to your home or meet you near your home, or do you have to visit the office for meetings? Does the agency have on call support where you can reach a counselor 24/7? It is important that you choose an adoption agency that is readily available to you and has your best interest at heart. This can help prepare you for what to expect at each step in the process.

  • Do you support both open and confidential adoptions?

    Adoptions have been increasingly open, however all agencies handle open adoption differently. It is important to find out how open adoption occurs at each agency. Some questions to ask include whether you can be involved in the process of selecting a family, whether you can choose the level of openness that feels comfortable to you, and what type of contact you can have with the adoptive family and child. If you want a more confidential adoption, it is important to ask the agency how they protect your confidentiality through the process.

  • How does the agency screen its adoptive families?

    An adoption professional’s goal should be to help you to select the best possible family for your child. Make sure the agency's adoptive families undergo FBI background checks, criminal records checks, and child abuse checks, as well as ensure that their families provide updated medical and financial information. You can also ask what trainings the adoptive parents undergo during the home study process. It is important that you feel that the agency you select does everything possible to assess the stability of potential adoptive parents.

Considering adoption for your baby is a huge step for you as the birthparent. By making this choice, you are choosing to give your child a stable and secure future. As you begin the adoption process, it is important to make sure you choose an adoption agency that you are comfortable with, can meet your individual needs, and will allow you to be as involved in the process as you wish. Working with the right adoption agency can help ensure all of your wishes for your child are met and your child ultimately will have the life you want him or her to have.

If you are pregnant and considering adoption for your baby, and have questions or would like to meet with a birthparent counselor, please contact us at 412-441-4884 or