Bobby and Pam
Hi, we’re Pam and Bobby!
We knew from the beginning of our relationship that we wanted kids and have always dreamed of having a large family! We are a fun-loving couple who want to build a family together through adoption. We found out very quickly that we are unable to conceive a child, but believe that everything happens for a reason and we knew immediately that adoption was the only choice for us. We have a large extended family that is extremely supportive of our decision to adopt and we all cannot wait to welcome another child into our family.
We have a four year-old daughter, Marley, through adoption. Marley’s birth and adoption was such a wonderful time in our lives and we are so honored to have the chance to experience this again. Since we have been involved in adoption before, we understand that this is an emotional time for everyone involved. We know that this is not an easy decision and are willing to work out any plan that makes you feel more comfortable. We feel extremely grateful for the opportunity to raise a child and will honor that decision throughout the child’s life, as we do with Marley. We are open and honest with Marley about her adoption and she knows exactly how she was brought to our family and the love that we all experienced during her birth.
Bobby grew up in Pittsburgh with his mom, dad, and three sisters. Bobby’s dad was a Teacher/Coach and Athletic Director at a private High School during their upbringing, so education and sports have had a huge impact in Bobby’s life. Growing up, Bobby was very close with his parents, who were loving and supportive. They were great role models for him, especially now as he is raising his own family. Bobby was fortunate enough to attend the school in which his father worked. After Bobby graduated, he went to college in South Carolina where he got his bachelor’s and master’s degree in Health and Exercise Science while also playing college baseball.
Pam was born in Ohio, moved to California as a baby, where her parents divorced, then moved to South Carolina with her mom, where she spent the majority of her life. Pam’s dad stayed in California when Pam moved to South Carolina, so she traveled to California every summer to visit him and her two half-sisters. Pam’s upbringing was very different than Bobby’s, but feels that it has made her the adaptable, loyal, and determined person that she is today. After high school, Pam wasn’t exactly sure what she wanted to do as a career, so she continued working and started college a few years later. After moving to Pittsburgh, Pam finished her bachelor’s degree in Sociology and Criminal Justice.
We met while we were both living in South Carolina, became friends and eventually began dating. Even though we only dated for a short time, we knew right away we would get married. Bobby had always planned to move back to Pittsburgh to be close to his family, so we decided to make the move together. A year later we had a beautiful wedding with all of our friends and family and we just celebrated our ten year anniversary. Although we have different backgrounds we have the same core values and beliefs, which allow us to maintain a strong relationship.
Bobby ended up following in his father’s footsteps and is now the Assistant Athletic Director at the same private High School. Bobby is also the head baseball coach and assistant football coach and is very passionate about working with teenagers through sports. After graduation, Pam got a job working for a non-profit agency that helped children. Although she loved her job, she struggled with the fact that she wasn’t home with Marley, so she eventually decided to quit her job and stay at home. Pam still works a couple of days of week while her mom watches Marley, but will stop working when the new baby arrives. She may one day return to working part-time, but feels right now it’s important to be at home with our children.
Bobby’s entire family lives very close by and we visit them every Sunday for dinner and to hang out, usually watching Steelers, Penguins, or Pirates games. Shortly before Marley was born, Pam’s mom moved to Pittsburgh to be close to her family. She also lives near us and is always begging for the chance to baby-sit! Pam’s dad lives in California and visits several times a year. Pam’s two half-sisters and their families live in Pittsburgh as well. Our home is in a quiet, safe suburb of Pittsburgh near where Bobby grew up. We are a very active family and enjoy traveling, going to Bobby’s games, exercising and spending time together. Pam and Marley also go to South Carolina several times a year to visit Pam’s best friend, Angie, her husband and their three kids. Pam and Angie grew up together and have always considered each other part of their families. They have been through a lot together and have remained a big part of each other’s lives. Being with our family has a lot to do with who we are and is the most important thing to us.
As parents, we provide a fun, stable, and nurturing home with unconditional love. The most important thing to us is that our children are happy and we have instilled good values in them during their childhood. Adoption will always be a positive part of our lives and as our children grow, they will always know the love that has brought them to our family.
We are working with The Children’s Home, which is a licensed adoption agency and they can be reached at 1-800-961-7704 or 412-441-4884. A counselor is available 24 hours a day to provide more information.
Pam and Bobby